Mandy’s Story
At eight years old, Mandy felt like an outsider at her elementary school. Her bright eyes would watch the children around her become friends, as she struggled to connect with other children. She envied the comfortable way other kids talked, laughed and played games. So at ease with each other.
As an only child, Mandy would often play video games alone at home. School was her only chance to interact with other children – yet that didn’t feel safe to try new interactions. The kids might make fun of her freckles of her chubby arms. Mandy’s mom wrestled with severe social anxiety, and while she loved her little girl, she was unable to model healthy friendships or offer guidance. Mandy felt alone.
In fourth grade, Mandy heard several children talking about Neighborhood Centers. She begged her mom to sign her up. Two nights a week, Mandy would come to Neighborhood Centers and watch the other girls play dress up, but she wouldn’t take part. She would sit in the corner and twirl her pigtails and watch as other girls became doctors, teachers, clowns and princesses.
The adults in the program noticed Mandy’s shy nature and began to help her open up to those around her. They would get her to take part in group games, and watch a huge smile form on her face. Mandy still had moments when it was hard for her to bond with others, but given time in a safe environment, she became comfortable in her skin.
Now, Mandy not only plays dress up with the other kids, she models her outfits for the room with pride and confidence. She blossomed into a more outgoing and confident girl. Mandy has found her place; a place where she is encouraged by adult mentors and peers to be herself and to be happy.
